30 days of Praying for you and your husband! Day 15

Day 15

Pray for Foundational Faith

Our faith and our core doctrines really matter when it comes to durability of marriage. Marrying someone who is a hypocrite or being a hypocrite ourselves is quite dangerous as what is shown outside and what is actually seen in the house are not the same. One pastor said, our real testimony comes from the
mouth of our spouse. Even if the whole world blames us but the husband says, “you are the most patient woman I can ever find”, that shows that the foundation of the wife’s faith and core doctrines are right. Because those who have a bad testimony at home will twist the word according to their sinful nature(2 Peter 3:14-18) and also chose preachers according to their itchy ears. There are many who attend churches that teach the right doctrines, even though they hear it, in personal life they follow wrong doctrines and lead a deceptive life. Additionally a spouse who is a hypocrite will never gain the credibility from the life partner. Many families have been torn apart due to doctrinal mismatches. I know a family where the father-in-law is a Calvinist (Calvin was not so Calvinistic, people twisted the sovereignty of God to suit their short comings). It is so funny that he used to say that he treats his son-in-law so rudely and accuses him falsely because God did not give him the grace to be patient right from his young age. His says his short tempered nature and malicious talks are his personality. Since God did not change him in his young age, he is unable to change it in his 80’s. This made the son-in-law a victim to verbal abuse and hardships in his marriage. If the doctrinal compromise of the father-in-law who is a 3rd person in the marriage relationship can cause serious damage to that marriage how much more will the morally compromised foundations of the spouse affect the marriage. If you are already stuck with such a person prayer with faith, wisdom and good testimony can only change things.

Let’s pray!

For You

  • Lord! I pray that I don’t become a hypocrite and deceive myself for my selfish motives.I can never hide my heart from you who knows the deepest part of my heart. May my faith be a living faith that results in good works, wisdom and fruit of spirit.
    (James 2:17)
  • Lord! Keep me and my family members away from false doctrines and false teachings. I pray that we get rooted in the word as a family so that we discern false teachings and stay strong in our faith.
    (2 Tim. 4:3, 4)
  • Lord! Help me to read, meditate, memorize and listen to the word of God. May I invest time and effort into this fervently. May I seek the word of God with all my heart.
    (Joshua 1:8)
  • Lord! Teach me to discern the need of spiritual warfare where I bend my knees in prayer and defeat Satan’s lies with the word of God. May I discern the work of Satan and resist him. May I be aware of Satan’s tricks and pray against it.
    (2 Corinthians 2:11)
  • Lord! Teach me to apply the word of God in my life. It is very hard to apply the word in life especially when the husband is not doing it. Teach me to stay strong in applying the word of God even if I’m not supported by my husband. I pray that through my testimony and polite discussions may I inspire my husband to live according to the word of God.
    (James 1:22)

For your Husband

  • Lord! May my husband provide for the family and take care(physical, financial, passion, emotional and spiritual) of the family through hardships and hard work. For it is written “if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever”.
    (1 Timothy 5:8)
  • Lord! May my husband read, meditate and apply the word of God in his life so that he understands the depth of the word he received from you. Remove all the hypocrisy that has come in due to false teaching, poor testimony of believer parents and personal lack of faith.(Matthew 16:6)
  • Lord! I pray that he takes the responsibility to be the spiritual leader of the family in taking a lead in family prayer, good testimony at home and doing everything after hearing from the Lord.
    (Ephesians 5:23)
  • Lord! I pray that he keeps growing in the word of God so that he is ready in season and out of season. I pray that he diligently seeks to hear from you each day. May he derive his confidence from your spoken word and written word and be strong in his faith. Remove all the unbelief and self reliance. I also pray that he doesn’t become lethargic in taking care of family placing all the responsibility on God. May my husband obey you and do what he is supposed to do and leave what is under your control.
    (Matthew 28:20)
  • Lord! I pray that my husband understands the priority of doing the work of God. May he not neglect the work of God due to other priorities.May he not neglect the personal growth in the word and prayer and do ministry. May he not lead a bad testimony at home and go outside and do ministry. I pray that you teach him the consequences of hypocrisy.
    (Matthew 23:3)

Amen!

Today’s Promise: 

Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock. Though the rain comes in torrents and the floodwaters rise and the winds beat against that house, it won’t collapse because it is built on bedrock. Matthew 7:24,25

Today’s Command:

Rid yourselves, therefore, of all malice, deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander.
Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, now that you have tasted that the Lord is good. 1 Peter 2:1-3

30 days of Praying for you and your husband! Day 14

Day 14

Pray for understanding

We usually hear that marriage is all about understanding each other.
Very true! but we have one more thing to do before we try to understand our spouse. It’s about understanding ourselves. Even though we have been spending a lot of time with ourselves we don’t know much about ourselves. Marriage is a place where I realized so many unexpected things about my husband but I also discovered so many shocking things about myself. So I realized I need to understand myself and my husband and only then
will I know what to expect and what not to and what is important for me and what is important for my husband.

Let’s pray!

For You

  • Lord! Help me to understand my psychology, my character, my personality, my priorities and my passion. Give me the wisdom to introspect myself before I start judging my husband or put efforts to understand him.
    (2 Corinthians 13:5)
  • Lord! Help me to have a clear conscience in whatever I do and try to check my intentions and behavior every day. May I never grieve the Holy Spirit
    and act understanding what pleases God and pursue it with all my heart.
    (1 Timothy 1:19)
  • Lord! May I never pursue something on surface level. May I be clear if I have burning passion for it or if’s just an emotional bubbling. May I pursue only the desires that God has placed in my heart.
    (Philippians 2:13)
  • Lord! Give me a heart that puts my husband’s expectations as a priority. May I do my best to please my husband and submit to him without grumbling and complaining. I understand that when I do anything without complaining I can do my best and improve it each time. May I be patient when he is slow in understanding me.
    (Philippians 2:3,4)
  • Lord! May I never get disappointed when my husband doesn’t try to understand me nor try to prioritize my expectations. May I trust in you! May I stay strong and never start nagging my husband about it. In case of serious issues give me the wisdom to do the right thing and solve it peacefully. Even if my husband fails to understand me You understand me well and your love is sufficient. May I receive love from you and then give it to my husband.
    (Psalm 16:5, Luke 10:42)

For your Husband

  • Lord! I Pronounce divine blessings over my husband’s ability to understand, for you have given him not the spirit of fear, but of love, power and sound mind.
    (2 Timothy 1:7)
  • Lord! I Proclaim that my husband will be driven by the divine wisdom that comes from above and not the worldly wisdom. May his wisdom be driven by love for the family and not by craftiness.
    (1 Corinthians 3:19, Proverbs 2:6, Luke 20:23)
  • Lord! I pray that my husband understands me in his own pace. May he not rush into this lest he ends up misunderstanding me.
    (2 Corinthians 1:14)
  •  Lord! I pray that you give my husband the patience to slow down in areas where I am moving in a slow pace to understand him. Grant him the ability to walk with me in my pace. May we walk together in this marriage journey helping each other in our weaknesses. It’s a blessing for husband and wife to walk in same pace than leaving one person behind and walk faster!
    (Colossians 3:13, Proverbs 18:17)
  •  Lord! I pray that my husband and I understand ourselves and each other and have healthy discussions on what we expect from each other. Give us the wisdom to handle the discussions with good listening and genuine affection. Lord! help us to ignore silly issues by handling it ourselves without bringing that to the discussions, so that we can focus on important things. Let us come to a level of maturity where we are no more afraid to confront politely or to be confronted.
    (Ephesians 5:21, Matthew 5:23,24, 1 Peter 3:8-11)

Amen!

Today’s Promise: 

The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding. Cherish her, and she will exalt you; embrace her, and she will honor you. She will give you a garland to grace your head and present you with a glorious crown. Proverbs 4:7, 8, 9

Today’s Command:

Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly. Proverbs 14:29