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30 days of Praying for you and your husband! Day 11

Day 11

Pray for Relationship with God

Married life is the best place to be churned and turned into the Character of Jesus! When we think of all the forgiveness that has crossed the counts of seventy times seven, we sure understand that marriage is a place where our faith is tested to be proved true or if it’s just surface level faith. Marriage is also a place where selfish people become unselfish and unselfish people are taken advantage of. Many mature Christians (the true ones 😀 ) who have been married for decades credited their success in marriage to the relationship with God. But the current times are different the married couples are in a wild goose chase to make their bread and butter and make ends meet and to have a better standard of living. The relationship with God is put to toss.

I faced this too. Being a working woman who is an SAP Commerce Java Developer in an IT company who wakes up everyday at 5:30 am to cook break fast, lunch and prep work for dinner, wash all the vessels, wipe and stack them before leaving to office, attend a noisy-barking status call at home while cooking and serving breakfast and reach office at around 10:00 am, take household worries to office and do the dog-chasing-tail dance at work and then bring back work non-sense to home at 9:45 pm (or later) and prepare dinner and go to bed only to have sleepless nights, I sometimes forget to breathe. Not to forget the days when the food I prepared doesn’t taste good  and I crucify myself as I derive my success from Kitchen! 😀 That’s when the pressure cooker sarcastically whistles at me and I just brush it off and pretend like I’m fine. Yes, the usual “I’m fine” which certainly means I’m not. What to do! that’s how we women speak.

My worries only increased as my prayer life started blinking red.

So I spoke to God , “Lord! I’m not able to pray. I feel so far away. What shall I do?” and God simply said “Pray”.

God was not kidding when He said that. Prayer is the only answer to lack of prayer which means we start praying about this concern whenever possible and God will start opening ways to solving this and the first thing that he opens is our eyes to see the urgent necessity of prayer.

Necessity leads to priority! Priority leads to plans!

Please read these articles on enjoying relationship with God in hectic life,

Working women this is for you Part – I

working women this is for you Part-II

Let’s pray!

For You

  • Lord, today I chose to trust in you that without a relationship with you I can not have a good relationship with my husband. It is you who is amidst us that is holding us together. It is you the unbreakable bond between us. I thank you Lord!
    (Ecclesiastes 4:12)
  • Lord, May I never take credit for all the good things that happened in this marriage. Even though my obedience plays a role, it is you who makes things happen and it is you who gives me the grace to face the day.
    (Isaiah 26:12)
  • Lord, Lord help me to prioritize prayer and reading of the word. Even if I pray for 5 minutes let it be from the bottom of my heart. May I always tune my ears to the guidance of the Holy Spirit. May not think, say or do anything that will grieve the Holy Spirit. May I slowly increase my prayer time and enjoy the fullness of Life!
    (Psalm 63:1a, Psalm 119:92)
  • Lord, open my eyes to see the grace that you shower each day newly according to the problems that are unknown to me but known
    to you. Open my ears to hear your voice. My ears are blocked due to the noise of the world and worries of life. I pray that you deliver me from this chaos and open my ears to hear you speak. Lord! I’m lifeless without hearing your voice!
    (Psalm 119:18, Isaiah 50:4,5, Psalm 40:6)
  • Lord, I commit my everyday plans and into your hands. May I not lean on my own understanding. Teach me to balance my day well. Bless the work of my hands so that extra time is not wasted on it.
    (Proverbs 16:3, Psalm 37:5)

For your Husband

  • Lord, I pray that we prioritize family altar no matter how hectic is our life. Lord I pray that the family prayer should not be a name sake one but a place where we unite in one spirit and worship you in Spirit and Truth. Lord! May it be time where we hear from you and let us not come to the family altar with bitterness and rage in our hearts. Let, family altar bring peace and reconciliation to the family and not strife.
    (Matthew 18:20)
  • Lord, I pray for my husband’s relationship with you. I pray that all the obstacles, lack of faith and unwanted priorities that is blocking my husband from getting closer to you, be broken in the name of Jesus.
    (Mark 9:24)
  • Lord, I pray that my husband becomes sober and stays vigilant about what is happening in the family and around. I pray that he will use his vigilance to pray diligently against the roots of the problems.
    (Matthew 26:41)
  • Lord, I pray that you will give him timely urge to pray so that he may keep himself away from temptations just like you warned Peter to pray to avoid temptations.
    (Mark 14:38)
  • Lord, remove all the laziness, sluggishness and physical weakness that is preventing him from praying regularly and reading the word. Lord I also pray that He will use his mouth to proclaim the word of God through Biblical confessions each day!
    (Proverbs 10:5, Mark 14:38b)
  • I pray that me and my husband will share a Godly fellowship where we discuss about you and what you have spoken in your word. May our spiritual talks
    be blessed and make us come closer and closer as the spiritual bonds last longer!
    (1 Corinthians 1:10)

Amen!

Today’s Promise: 

No one whose hope is in you will ever be put to shame, but they will be put to shame who are treacherous without excuse. Psalm 25:3

Today’s Command:

Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

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30 days of Praying for you and your husband! Day 10

Pray for Finance

Day 10

Finance is not the problem for poor people. It’s a problem for every person who fails to be a good steward in terms of money and generosity. In every couple there will be one spouse who is not good at managing the money
and also ends up dominating the other while making financial decisions.
It’s funny how they know that they are weak in that area and yet hate to be helped by the spouse who is good at planning finance well. There are some rare extra ordinary couple where the husband and the wife spend lavishly.
Men like to have financial freedom so most of the time the lavish expenditure comes from Men (there are exceptions) and since the man is the head of the family he (generally) doesn’t cope well when the wife gives sound
financial advice. Even for those men who commit this responsibility to the wife
accepting the wife’s advice is something that puts them under a lot of stress.
This is because women look at money as resource and men look at money as a tool to derive freedom, status and definitely their ego. Let’s not forget that a lot of women are joining this club these days.

The old culture is for the wife to have complete control of the finances. In my opinion it’s NOT healthy for the marriage. Women who take full control of the finance end up becoming a nagging wife and the husband is put under a lot of stress and he becomes an angry man.

A nagging wife + Angry husband = Sad Family

(Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife. Proverbs 21:19, A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention. Proverbs 15:18 )

As men are the heads of the family and women are helpers/administrative unless the man changes his ways, the finance will remain a nightmare. Finance should be under the leadership of man and administration of women. By all means the husband should make a decision only if the wife is completely happy about it and wife should make a decision only when the husband approves.

Let’s pray!

For you

  • Lord I pray that I don’t become a nagging wife who irritates the husband in terms of financial decisions. May I politely and wisely convey my suggestions without dominating my husband or looking down on him.
    (Proverbs 27:15,16)
  • Lord I pray that we as a family keep track of finance really well and prioritize saving money for the future of the family. Teach us to be wise like Joseph who saved many lives during famine through prudent saving of grains.
    (Proverbs 27:18a, Proverbs 6:7,8)
  • Lord make us a blessing to all the relatives especially who are in GENUINE need for money. May our hands be open to give.
    (Proverbs 3:27)
  • Lord, teach me to be transparent in terms of money no matter what the consequence be. Lord help me to be wise in knowing where to invest the money. May I guide my husband accordingly. When I’m faced with situation where my husband makes hasty decisions that affect our finance, teach me to trust you.
    (Proverbs 31:16 – 18)
  • Lord teach me never to compare our life style with that of others and try to fit into the worldly culture. Teach us to lead a peaceful life by staying away from entering into debts. Lord I pray that through saving, investing and
    waiting for the right time may my family overcome the temptation to get into debt. Lord! I humbly pray for a life without debt!
    (Proverbs 22:7, Romans 13:8)

For your husband

  • Lord! I pray that you open my husband’s eyes to see the consequences of lavish spending. I pray that he supports me in saving the money for the future needs of the family just as the Pharaoh supported Joseph
    in saving the grains.

(Genesis 45:6,7)

  • Lord! I pray that my husband will be generous in giving to God’s work and people who are in genuine need. Lord! unite us together in this. May we have the same mind when it comes to giving.

(2 Corinthians 9:6-8)

  • Lord! I pray that you protect my husband from all the baits that make him spend on useless things. Keep him away from
    entering into debts for luxuries that can be replaced with simple and economic things.
    (Proverbs 15:27)
  • Lord! I pray against all the ego that blinds diligent judgement and understanding of the financial decisions.
    May pleasing you and the family’s wellness be the priority while making decisions and not to prove others wrong or to do what came to mind
    in haste without consulting with the wife.
    (Proverbs 28:25,26)
  • Lord! I pray that my husband never looks down on my wisdom and my experience in terms of finance. Provide favor in the eyes
    of my husband so that we can make united decisions for finance. Give my husband a heart to listen to the financial suggestions I give.
    Remove all the advice that come to my husbands ears that are outside marriage bounds.
    (Proverbs 31:11,26,27 & Proverbs 3:18)

Today’s Promise

For when you eat the fruit of your labor, blessings and prosperity will be yours; our wife will be like a fruitful vine flourishing within your house, your sons like olive shoots sitting around your table. Psalm 128:2,3

Today’s command

The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty. Proverbs 21:5Â