Day 9
Pray for emotional control
Dear Women!
Many women are smiling at this topic thinking “That’s what I needed”.
This is a very common problem in most of the marriages.
But I would like to break 2 myths.
Myth 1 : Women can not control their emotions like Men.
This is very wrong!
A women can watch chicken Briyani burn down to Charcoal in the morning,
got to office to see so many escalations,
come home to hear her mother-in-law say “You are the reason nothing is managed well in this house”,
turn to her husband for comforting words but instead hear him say,
“you are the one who misunderstands everything”,
then have her son come to her saying that he spilled detergent on the floor and still go and clean the spilled detergent and go to bed with eyes full of tears
only to wake up early and cook for her family as if nothing happened.
Professional marriage counselors have always mentioned that,
“The problem is not that women are emotionally weak. Women are emotionally stronger than men but since men are emotionally immature they don’t understand what the women are trying to convey”.
Myth 2 : Men are emotionally mature and strong in handling emotions.
This is so wrong! Men are emotionally immature compared to Women. They just hide it as the society has forced them to be so. For a fact they have bottled up emotions that are pressurized over time. Professional Marriage Counselors say an Average Indian man aged 30 has the emotional maturity of an Average Indian Woman aged 25. In simple words,
“Men are angry when they are hungry,
Men are cranky when they haven’t had good sleep,
Men are sleepy(bored / fidgety) when the wife starts pouring her heart out,
Men are grumpy when a closed issue is opened again,
Men are happy when the wife allows him to make mistakes
Even if they know that those mistakes will consequentially
affect the family”
[Note: The above information is a gist of statistically proven information in terms of women and men psychology and there are exceptions and sometimes the psychology is switched between men and women.]
Some women start disrespecting their husbands because of these or after knowing these. The whole intention of the above content is to understand that men need the emotional support of women more than what women need. We are stronger than we think. Isn’t that good? Men have emotional needs too! Let’s Handle them with care!
At the same time women should not be victimized by men by complete withdrawal of emotional support and empathetic care.
Let’s pray!
For you:
- Lord! I pray, that you will give me a good emotional control in my life.
Help me to have a grounded emotional state where I stay calm and
hold on to my faith through all the hiccups and happy moments in life.
(Romans 12:12)
- Lord! I pray that you give me the strength, wisdom and divine power to calm down and know that you are in control of the situation no matter what.
Keep me away from anger and give me a listening heart.
(Matthew 11:28-30)
- Lord! Keep me away from the ungodly counsels and gossipers mouth that kindle unwanted emotions and make me waste my thoughts
on unwanted things.
(Proverbs 26:20)
- Lord! help me identify the joy stealers and emotional triggers and deal with those individually. Lord! teach me to discern and differentiate the serious issues of life that need my attention and the silly issues of life that need to be ignored.This way I will stay relaxed most of the time.
(Proverbs 13:3)
- Lord! teach me to be joyful at all times. May my prayer life, my Bible reading and faith confessions be consistent and constant no matter what is going on in my life. Help me understand that to be joyful in you will strengthen me from within. I say and declare,
“My joy in My God is My strength”. (Nehemiah 8:10)
For your husband:
- Lord! May my husband not fluctuate between extremes of emotions from exuberant excitement to extreme sadness. Give my husband a steady calm mind in all situations so that he may not take any hasty decisions that will impact our lives.
(2 Thessalonians 3:16)
- Lord! Guide him the consequences of anger. May he be aware of the hurt caused by angry decisions, words, gestures and behaviors. Guide him to discern the situations that will trigger anger, to be of self control and overcome it! ()
- Lord! Give my husband a joyful heart that heals all the physical and emotional wounds that are deep within.
(Proverbs 17:22)
- Lord! I pray for all the bottled up emotions that are buried deep within my husband’s heart, that he denies and hesitates to share. I pray that those emotions are channeled well and completely let out never to look back again.
(1 Peter 5:7)
- Lord, I pray that you make my husband observe, listen and understand what is happening around and be sober all the time. Teach him to have a balance in being relaxed and still be careful.
(1 Peter 1:13)
Today’s Promise:
There also you and your households shall eat before the Lord your God, and rejoice in all your undertakings in which the Lord your God has blessed you. Deuteronomy 12:7
Today’s Command:
Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice! Philippians 4:4